What is Self-Talk?
“Self-talk” is what a child or teen (or adult) thinks to herself when she is faced with something difficult. An individual with learning, attention or other challenges often experiences negative self-talk about challenging tasks at school at work, on the playground, or in life.
“I’m stupid.”
“I’m a bad kid because I do and say things without thinking.”
“I’ll never get it!”
“No one likes me!”
Some children, teens, (and adults) take these negative thoughts to an extreme level resulting in low self-esteem, feelings of worthlessness, fears, anxiety, depression, and feelings of hopelessness.
How Does Negative Self-Talk Work?
Typically, negative self-talk follows the following A-B-C pattern:
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Adversity strikes (a problem occurs).
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Beliefs, or negative thoughts about the problem or one’s ability to handle the problem are generated in your child’s mind. These thoughts often include the words “I”, “me”, or “my” along with negative thoughts.
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Consequences or negative feelings and actions occur as a result of negative thoughts or beliefs.