Just as a golfer who is committed to improving must ask him or herself a lot of questions to see how well he is progressing, the goal achiever must ask these questions on a regular basis.

Just as the golfer goes to the driving range and plays often in order to improve his or her game, you must take daily action to achieve your goals. Setting a goal but not taking action is the same as not even setting a goal. To help yourself take action, try these suggestions:

Setting and achieving goals is a lot like playing golf! The overly-simplified primary goal of golf is to get the ball into the cup in the fewest number of shots as possible. And, then do the same for each cup in the course. Sounds easy?  It’s not: it requires effort! Devoted golfers can spend hours…

In the old West, when someone was a wanted criminal, the sheriff put a picture of the criminal along with details about him and details about the reward for finding him on a “Wanted Poster.”

Using your goals, you can make a different kind of “Wanted Poster.”

Oftentimes, we fail to achieve our goals because our goals are unclear and unrealistic. By thinking about your talents and the skills and abilities you want to develop, you can better clarify your goals. The first step in identifying realistic goals involves making a list of what you want to do with your talents or what abilities you want to develop. When setting goals, it may be helpful to use these mind-joggers to get started:

Once you have identified what you want to achieve, it is time to sort out the realistic goals from the rest. Answer these questions from your list of “wants.”

As stated in a previous post, “Change is hard!”  Making a change in your life is a multiple-step and multifaceted process that can involve multiple conflicts before you see the resulting growth.  Because change is difficult, it is critical to figure out why you want to change. When thinking about making a change, it is…

Do you struggle to do the right thing? Do you do things you don’t want to do? You’re in good company and you can overcome the shame of your struggles.

Did you survive spring break or enjoy self-compassion week?

Self Compassion is not easy and it involves a few steps (1) Understand what it is and what it’s not, (2) Love your humanness like your creator does, (3) Practice self-kindness by being kind to yourself, and (4) Use mindful mindfulness to minimize momentary mishaps.

“Awareness” is about stepping up, stepping back, and figuring out how to step over your momentary failures, flaws, and fears without judging yourself negatively. In that moment you are struggling, it is important to be able to realize that this one moment does not define your entire life.

We can be kind to others. We can even be kind to others we don’t like. Why can’t we be kind to ourselves? Aren’t we supposed to love our neighbor as we love ourselves? When did we lose this assumed correlation between our love for ourselves and others? Did we ever have it?